Conundrum...

Ok, I'm going to complain about something,

and hardly anyone reads this so I'm going

to be COMPLETELY HONEST about it!

So, I have a problem.

Guys like me.

Now, before you punch your computer screen

pretending it's my face,

let me explain why this is a problem.

I'm REALLY PICKY about who I will

and won't date.

BUT, I also try to be sensitive to others' feelings,

including the feelings of guys that I'm 

not interested in romantically.

I know it takes a LOT of guts for a guy to ask a girl

for her number, or on a date, etc. etc.

I KNOW! 

So, then, I'm left with this problem that I can't

seem to be "just friends" with a guy.

It seems impossible for me to even "friends zone" them!

I've tried!

What happens?

They come back again later asking the same questions

I said "No" to before! 

Ugh!

Now, when I say I'm picky about who I will 

and won't date, let me explain that as well.

I'm old-fashioned.

I was at a meeting today, where people came up

and introduced themselves to me, and each time

someone would come up to introduce themselves to me,

I would stand up.

Common courtesy, polite, etiquette, maybe? 

I actually had a guy tell me that I shouldn't do that.

Excuse me? 

Guys aren't the only ones who should be polite.

That's what I mean by old-fashioned.

I believe old habits are still relevant, 

and should be used.

Nothing makes my heart flutter more than

when I guy calls me "Ma'am."

I hate the terms "Babe", "Sexy", "Hot,"

etc. Derogatory terms. Yuck.

Not attractive at all.

So, when I walk into a church full of guys

all dressed like punks with their bright-colored

suspenders and bowties and VANZ
whatever the heck else they come up with,

I don't take interest in any of them!

But, say a guy walks in with a nice suit on with a 

WHITE SHIRT, a modest tie, meaning

not too wide or too skinny, and not too wild or crazy,

and is clean-shaven, has a good haircut, 

and is wearing a belt that matches his shoes, 

and his socks match his pants,

WOW!

There's an attractive young man!

So, now, girls, I know you still probably want to
punch me in the face, because I've gotten
that response before when I try to vent about this
because it really actually bothers me that I can't
walk into a room, even a church-event,
where there are single guys
and not have at least one of them ask me for
my number.
It's annoying!!!
It's not a confidence-booster, because the ones
who ask are all the WRONG guy!
And don't tell me I'm being judgemental because
I base my first impression partly on how they dress,
because you can tell a lot about a person
by the way they dress and how they present
themselves.
So, here's the root of my problem:
I feel like I hardly have any girl-friends because
for some reason girls seem to hate me,
and I hardly have any guy-friends because
for some reason I can't just be "friends" with a guy,
because they always want it to be more.
So, there's my vent.
I feel like I have no friends.
The end.